Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure, and immediate physiological responses of the body. How this process occurs in guys and how to speed up stimulation is useful for every woman to know.
Where does it all start?
The onset of arousal is set by a variety of sensory stimuli. The smell of a girl, her kisses and touches, external appearance (especially without clothes) stimulates centers in the brain that send signals to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and the 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines how excited a man is. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual Arousal. "
As a result, an erection occurs. This is filling the cavernous body of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, as a result, the penis becomes hard, expands (on average 3-4 times) and a pulse is felt. Often such reactions occur within seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, an erection can weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20 thousand men. The sizes of their genitals were measured. People from all over the world participated. As a result, it was found that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erection. One of them - natural (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual overtones. The other two follow sexual arousal in men.
Psychological (or psychological) - takes place against the background of stimulation of centers in the brain. Nerve signals are sent to the spinal cord and then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – occurs due to contact with the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is very sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing becomes faster and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become firmer and the testicles rise. The upper part of the body will be slightly red. Lubricating fluid is released, which facilitates the passage of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful image (naked woman, or dressed in lace clothes, dancing, seductive lies, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it for the stimulation to be as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Stomach (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genitals and surrounding area.
Foreplay in most cases starts with kisses. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and get the guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips; in addition, he feels his partner's sexuality and anticipates the upcoming sex. At this time, you can stroke the nape area with your hands; this area is also very sensitive. Many men enjoy having their earlobes kissed and bitten, but you need to be careful with this, as there are those who just don't like the process.
The lower abdomen is a great area to stroke before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for an erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with hands, but also with lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - all movements in this area are welcome and cause sexual stimulation in men. You should be wary of sudden movements; kids may be afraid for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual technique - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be stroked with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to 24 hours) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, as the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly in all men and should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you become first mentally and then physically aroused. But how this happens is a little known question to most people. What does the science say? She considers arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, the first phase of it. That is to say, a whole series of processes. There is no gender difference in them: increased breathing and heart rate, muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goose bumps, as well as nipple erection.
Through sexual arousal, psychological behavior, eye contact and voice changes. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like drugs. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, an elevation of the scrotum to puberty, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, conversely, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, elevation and enlargement of the uterus, tension in the pubic muscles and an increase in the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in men reddening of the skin occurs in rare cases, then in women blood flow occurs not only in the clitoris and labia, but also in the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so pronounced that during and after orgasm, the area between the chest and shoulders and neck may even turn scarlet.
Why are there so many responses? They are associated with blood flow, which the body performs to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals and readiness for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the arousal phase there are: the plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase and the closing phase of the sexual response.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is related to the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular disease, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood flow to organs and hormone levels are disturbed.
With some diseases, bad habits, the intake of certain drugs, especially those that affect the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs is weak, which is why the main reaction of sexual stimulation in a man does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical, but also the psychological state, which is why impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed one. You cannot delay this situation; at first it is easy to correct. You need to see a urologist or sexologist.
Men have sex far more often than they orgasm. Prolonged abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. The favorite motto of women "we please you and do not leave you" is good in moderation - you should not overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical, but also mental health. A man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm isan important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is almost no difference in how it is obtained - during sex or masturbation.